Communication is always difficult even when we speak the same language. We all have a self-language, one created by us and individual to us. As I say to my clients, “I speak Cynthia and you speak you.”
When we approach each other with a sense of curiosity we build a bridge to a better understanding of one another, but this is just one key to building a relationship. Most people don’t have the primary relationship on which to build a relationship with another, a relationship with themselves.
People who own their own feelings, emotions and thoughts and don’t look to have other people resolve them create self-awareness. And therein lies the power and freedom to create a relationship of depth.
We can’t change what we don’t own. Owning who we are and resolving why things hurt allows us to change our perspective, which changes our behavior.
There is a saying in hypnosis, “Change the structure of the memory and you change the behavior that stems from it.”
Hypnosis works because it goes to the root of the behavior. Behavior is like a rash. It is a symptom of the problem not the root of the problem
My bf had an affair after 13 uyrs we seperated. For about 6 months we r working on fIixing it but he is always checking my phone mad cuz I go to the stores he thinks I'm gOing to pay him back how do I stop this its driviing me insane
Does he have cause for concern? Are you the type that seeks revenge? Lots of people are.
If this is not you he is in projection. Meaning he is projecting his feelings of fear, guilt, and recrimination onto you. I would have to say to him this is his problem and although you can empathize with his feelings you can not make his guilt about his actions go away by declaring your whereabouts every minute of every day.
His fear is not about you and will not be resolved by you.
Nice turn of the phrase.
My speed goes to 11
Dear Girlfriend, How do i deal with another women in a relations
Depends on the relationship.
Did he or she say they are in a committed relationship with you? Or are you assuming you are in a committed relationship? In which case you need to be committed for committing to an imaginary one-sided commitment.
If he or she has said they are not ready for a monogamous relationship and they intend to see other men or women as the case may be, then you have a choice enjoy the time you do see them or say this doesn’t work for you.
However, if they have professed their commitment and there is another woman in the picture wake up they are not in a committed relationship and you are fooling yourself believing the problem is the other woman.